All right, I'm going to try to explain something. Obsesion is like addiction. The only person that can do something about obsession is the one who have it. You won't get better by telling the object of your (unhealthy) obsession to change how she lives. That she need to cover or reward you with sex, love or attention. You'll get better by learning that obsession is not love, that you need to have more things in your life, etc.

And let me be clear, while women might suffer because some men's obsession, obsession is bad for the person who has it. So it is something that needs to be treated by a professional. I mean it.

What is healthy is to cultivate different kinds of relationships. With family, friends and yes, eventually a partner. But until you are good in your own skin and not obsessed, a relationship might hurt you. Worse, some people prey on men who get obsessed. There are scammers in dating apps, not to say narcissist.

Start simple: try some group sport and make friends. Recover the confidence on yourself. Then look at yourself with kind eyes and identify your good traits. Look for people that would value that. But accept that they would need space. Like a cake, one piece is good, maybe two. But if you eat the whole cake, you would get sick and puke. So respect their boundaries and timing or even if the like you at first, they might end feed up. That is why couples are recommended to have separate activities. It helps to appreciate your partner when you are together and not get tired. Also offer conversation topics. XD