As with many other things, context matters. While it is true that no one else can make you happy (and this is true for all people regardless of gender), for a long, long time women have been taught how to make a men happy. How to help them with his problems, how to make his life easier, and how to modify their behaviour to be more liked by men.

As a result, when societies start being less unequal, women who want equality can either stop doing those things that they know men want or expect an equal effort from men. The women who still do thing s to make men happy, do expect that men do things to make them happy. This is called reciprocity and makes a lot of sense.

Do men have an obligation to make women (or more precisely, the women they like/have as apartner) happy? No. Did their partner/wife expect that? Well, if she is making efforts for him, they probably expect a "matched energy" or "reciprocity" in their efforts. And it is logical and sane.

The articles you complain about are articles written in the context of women still doing a lot of things that doesn't come natural to them and take a lot of effort for the sake of men. So yes, it is perfectly logical to expect that men do something in return.

But as I said, it is not an obligation and, of course, there is an alternative: If men don't do those things to make women happy, women can and should stop doing those things that they don't like but that they have been doing to make men happy.

So yes, we can do the work. And while we are at it, we can stop doing the work that is not appreciated which could liberate energy to do that job. Then you would complain about "misandry" because you are so used to women doing things to make men happy, that women not doing them is perceived as "hating men".

So, do you want to be liked by women? Do the work. You don't care if women like you? Do whatever you want. But don't complain about "women imposible standards" if you don't do the work to be liked. Or abour "modern feminism" destroying families, because the traditional women also expected their husbands to make them happy.

And one last thing: women saying "do the work" is women being assertive and taking resposibility for their own happiness. They are literally telling you what they want from men. You can refuse to comply and they can walk away because you are not what they want. And maybe a different men would give it to them (it happens more than you think) and both would be happy together. And he would do what you won't and she would do things to make him happy because she seer reciprocity and appreciation that men like you would never show.

Your problem is not that those women aren't taking responsibility, but the opposite. You don't like what women who take control of their lives do and say. You want them to behave in ways that make YOU happy, and they refuse to do that any more.

Example: you think that child marriage should be accepted if "it is their culture" even if that means fathers deciding for literal girls. That is not women being responsible for their happiness. That is a men deciding what should make those girls happy. And when they are unhappy and speak up against child marriage? You complain about western feminism.

So yeah, we do know that men like you would never make us happy. But those articles are not aimed at men like you, but to reasonable men who understand that if you want a partner that cares about your happiness, you also need to care about your partner happiness. To me that sound desiderable, I suppose you only care about your happiness, not your partner's happiness.