Be honest, you do. And in a way that is ridiculous.

First, I'm nor religious. Not do I care about conversion. I merely offered an advice that worked for me and have worked for many people. Put time and effort on the people around you, then keep the ones that value that effort and give back close to you. This is not religion, this is valuing other people. Expecting others to be nice with people that might have treat them badly is something that is preached in catholicism, but that not even catholics apply.

I don't really care if you judge me. But take some time to think about what in my advice (that I apply to myself) feels like an attack to you.

Think about the problem you listed men have. The boys in school, for example. What would you like women to do? Sit with the boys and help them study or lower the difficulty on tests? Where I live, is usually parents who sit with the boys (also the girls). That improves academic results. So why don't you offer to give classes to boys? You might develop a nice relationship with those boys. So why ask women when you can do it yourself? Here many parents do that, they improve their bonds with their children (fathers included).

Give it a thought. Most things are on us to improve. Others helping might be a nice lucky break, but it shouldn't be expected. Model the empathy you would like to see, and maybe others would join. But asking people while you are not doing it, is unlikely to work. Women shelters are usually run by female volunteers. There are men volunteering in "big brother" programs. And women volunteering in homeless centers (so women showing empathy for men too). You want more empathy, start by showing it to others and talk about the things you do to offer more empathy. Maybe others would follow. Complaining like you do, would only feel the ones who are already being nice feel under appreaciated, burned and drift appart because the effort they are doing is not being seen.

If I'm completely candid, I've been taken advantage of. It happens. It is the price of trying to find people who cares. But from time to time, you see people who gives back and if you keep putting effort on those people, eventually you are surrounded of trustworthy people. It takes literal years or even decades to do that and no one can do it for you. And again, if I wasn't there for that people, eventually I would lose them and it would be on me. So yes, I'm going to prioritize those people over strangers. Which doesn't mean I can't from time to time help someone in small ways like paying taxes, donating or even doing some volunteer work. But when it comes to something like relationships? You bet that my family comes before a stranger and that is just human nature. If you feel attacked by me saying this, that is on you.