Because perspective.

I mean, fathers are as important in feminism. Just not the way they were in the past. Is not about getting an income like it was for my grandpas. Not about being the lead of the family and making tough choices and enforcing discipline, etc. Is about being there. Sure, it is good if they have a job, but also important that they do their part of the house chores, that they do their part of the caring elders, that they are there to raise children. Wake up at nights to attend the baby, etc. Feminist do value those fathers. And I think that childrens do value that too. I do value the time my father spend with me. And I value that more than the things that he has paid for me. My father supported me studying. Give me advice on how to advance my career, cleaned my puke when I was ill... Do you think we don't value men? think again. We do, but we do expect different things.

And in the bright side, we don't expect them to accept abuse in their jobs because they are the only income for the family. We do want them to live and share that with them. Not just see them exhausted at night and be afraid of doing something that bother them so they punished us. We even want to be able to joke with them. And this is the thing, our fathers are going to become old and depend on us. It is nature. So an egalitarian raising, make easier the transition. Both for them and us. Since men used to be the "lead" of the family, have a really bad time when they are powerless in bed because they are old. I don't want them to feel "less of a men" just because age is taken its tol. And I've seen both my grandparents in that position. Powerless, depending on other to go to the bathroom, for everything. And they weren't "less of a men". They did the best they could. See what I mean?