Both men and women suffer gaslit and ghosting. What worked for me:

Ghosting: people usually answer in 1-2 days. If they take longer, I ask once. If they don't answer after that, I assumed they are no interested/they have ghosted. Once I do that, if there is no reasonable explanation (like an accident, being ill or similar) I move on. And there is a limit of incidents I would accept. After all, if there is always something comming up, it is not the right time for you anyway. So I move on. This is the same as a rejection and their reasons are irrelevant.

Gasliting: Check history of what was said. Take note of what actually happen. Put in writing. Then show to the person what originally was said. If they insist or doesn't accept they got it wrong, then something is off. After all, memory could fail, but if you show it and they insist, they they want to trick you. So move on because if they gaslit you, then you should be the one rejecting them because this is toxic.

This works well. Once you start passing on people that are not interested (ghosting) or that are toxic (gaslit), you make room and time to meet people who might be right for you. You can't change other people, but you can change how do you react to them and stop wasting time with people who is not for you.