Cleaning and cooking for one is not the same by far than doing it for a family. The second that there are kids, the amount of work multiplies. Not just that, usually housewives do a lot more work. From errands to take care of elders. I saw my grandma do it and it was a 24x7 hours work.

I do have a career and I still think I have it easier than my grandmas.

You want to think that women aren't required to have a career and prospects to date. But the fact is that either you have a paid career or you are very good at the being housewife thing.

Now, considering how little you value what a housewife do, a woman who wants to be your housewife should have to be ok having her contribution not valued. That is another requirement of that position. And good at making you feel good about youself. Which is similar to being a commercial or a salesman.

Read your own words, you consider the woman "unnatractive", so here is the thing. Either the people she hooked up consider her attractive (and you have a high requirement of physical attractiveness) or she hooked up with someone who doesn't find her attractive, so the requirement is having no selfsteem and a very thick skin. That is a requirement.

You might not like what I'm saying, but it is still truth. Men have their list.

In my country a common come up that men used was "Do you study or do you work?". And it is normal to ask women about their jobs and careers. That is the norm. And women with careers are considered more interesting by men with careers than the ones that doesn't.

Sure, "hot" women get dates easier. But being considered "hot" requires good genetics, going to the gym, doing diet, going to the hairdresser, buying nice clothes and shoes, doing your make-up and learning how to dress. That is a lot of work.

And for "hot" men is similar. They put the work, go to gym, diet, etc.

At the end of the day, people look for people with similar ways to see life. Hot men end with hot women, career oriented people with career oriented women. It has a lot to do with conversation. It is easier than someone with similar circunstances understands you.

And that includes your "test". Since the men who hit on the woman you call unnatractive looked in a similar level of attractiveness than her. So maybe the "easier" time is just your opinion. After all, you are not seeing the people who swipe left. Not the dick picks or the men who are resentful, not the ones who string you alone, not the ones that ghost, etc.

It sounds to me that you would like that getting dates would be easier for you and that you are frustrated with the apps. That happens. You might wish to have many hook ups with "hot women" before settling with the perfect one and, instead, like most people, you have a mild success. That also happens to women.

But that doesn't mean that women have it easier. Finding someone is difficult for most people, but they eventually do.

Beautiful people* (by mainstream standards) have it easier. Everyone else, have to put on the work. Women included. Remember, that hot selfie that looks so casual, has nothing of casual. Gym+diet+clothes+make-up+haircut+photofilters= time and money. Without any of those things, most men would swipe left. That is life. XD