Connecting is a two-way thing. Both people need to do the work. The moment one of them doesn’t, there is no connection.

Traditionally, the work a woman does is different, but not necessarily less. Taking care of how you look, of other people's feelings and basically being available takes effort.

Honestly? If he really was standing to the system, he won’t be bitter. I mean, he just complains.

I’ve been hearing the same tune of “If you don’t do this or that you’ll end a spinster” all my life. Yours is a variation. The change we are seeing is that no longer women go along with relationships for the sake of not being single. Now they want a relationship to offer them something else besides not being single.

Sure, women complain, but at the end of the day, still choose single over a bad match. And actions speak louder than words.

Anyway, the practical side of me considers that if men who are bitter check out of the “system” it makes things easier for the people who actually want to connect. So I fully support if both of you and men with the same ideas just stay away from the dating pool. Traditionally is called “not being ready to date”. Nothing new under the sun. XD