Elisa Mariño
2 min readNov 19, 2022

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Dear, do you realize that men going to the gym doesn't deny that women do go to the gym? And that they algo spend a lot of money on make up (now men start doing that too, but you probably have a problem with this XD), and they also wear uncomfortable clothes and shoes (like heels that are literaly bad for your health) and even have surgeries to improve their appearance. If you can't see this, it is you who are on denial. Anyone who have been in a heterosexual couple knows who takes more time to get ready for a date and who uses more cosmetic products.

For the record, some men do in fact enjoy beer. And some have tinder pictures hicking, with the bike or practicing a sport. That is, their profile picture is wearing a track suit. For someone who bring up matches so frequently, have you actually take a look at men's profiles? XD

Now, for the part about the "matches" that you always bring up even if it is not relevant, at least you should make the effort to link to the studies. And consider how the algorythms and dynamics influence the results. For example, did you know that men are about 78% of the users on Tinder? Since there are roughly 3 men for each women, it is normal that men get less matches.

And you never bother to look at the details. For example, the men who get less matches, are married or already partnered? Are they 15+ years older than the women skiping left? Because when I was in dating apps, that kind of thing was common. Men way older than me, surprised or even ofended that I didn't wanted that age gap. And then you have the ones on other cities, who are also more likely to be rejected if you don't want a long distance relationship.

Face it Lennert, your problem is that you are irrationaly angry because since women can choose who to date, men doesn't have it as easier as they used to. But that is life, no one have it easy and your advice doesn't work for most women because they want different things than the ones that you want for them. The good news is that you can choose for yourself one of those men that other women doesn't want. Nothing prevents you from swiping right on all men.

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Elisa Mariño
Elisa Mariño

Written by Elisa Mariño

Fiction is the art to tell lies to show truths. Politics is the art to use truths to tell lies.

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