Dear, it is irrelevant if there is a spectrum of "body count". All woman start being a virgin, but even with a body count of 0, I considered that question a reflection on the man's values = sexist. And even as a virgin I didn't want a sexist man in my life. I would say that as a virgin it was even more important to me to avoid sexist men since I wanted to avoid a bad first experience. And I wanted that to be "the one", so of course I wanted to "get it right" by avoiding the men who I knew would be terrible. So yes, as a virgin, who supposedly would have no trouble answering "body count 0", I would have taken that question as a "tell" of a men with sexist values and avoid him.

As for "contradictions", women do take responsability for their actions. But we don't take responsability for men's actions. Whatever my level of dress or undress, if someone rapes me, it on them. If someone deceives me, is also on them. Interestingly enough, if a man ask for my body count and I already know that means he has sexist values, then it would be on me to avoid him. ;)

I've no problem saying that I consider men who care about body count sexist and I accept that those men won't like me. For me it is a win-win because I don't like those men either.

But it seems to me that men like you have a problem with women like me not caring about being liked by men like you. After all, if we don't care, the virgins and the "low body count" women might also realize that the values behid that obsesion are not something they want.

So you maybe want to take responsability for your actions and choices and accept that if you ask that question (which you should ask if it is important to you), they would be women who would pass on you.

You try to "compromise" when you talk about "broad spectrum between being a virgin and having a high body count". But it is not about an specific number, it is about values and double standards.

My advice? Try with a religious girl. Supposedly they wait for marriage to have sex and don't mind the sexism. ;)