Don't take this wrong but most women try to letting me down on their firsts attempts. But some men seem to think that if they pretend to not understand the rejections and insist, they would get their way. As a result, they force a more clear rejection that feels worse than the first ones that were ignored.

Example: Do you want to have coffe one day?

- I don't know, I'm very bussy lately (this is a sift rejection).

- I'm sure you can make time for a coffe with me.

- I'm really bussy I really can't (second rejection).

- Look, we can go to this coffe place right here. I've notice that you go there every day at 18:00 so we can go together (here he is becoming a little creepy because he has let her know that he has been watching her).

- I go there with my friends, so it won't work.

- I'm sure your friends would understand.

- Look, I don't want to go out with you (this is the rejection that is clear and might make him feel ofended, but some men would even insist after that).

- Why not? I'm a good guy, give me and opportunity and you won't regret it (at this point the woman is probably regreting stoping to talk to him in the first place).

- No, I'm not having coffee with you (or something even more harsh).

I think you get it by now. The woman never wanted a date and has been saying no politely at the begining. The man has decided to "not take no for an answer" because some women would be intimidated or forced to agree out of politeness even if they still doesn't want that date. But the ones who aren't intimidated? Are the ones that are called "mean" for being too harsh on their rejection.