Finding connection is always more difficult than just finding sex. Tinder favour casual sex and it is even more difficult to find connection there than in other apps (or on your day to day life).

What helped me was this:

Someone who wants connection is also looking and would pay attention to all the information that you put there. So in order to make it easier, look for apps that allow you to write whatever you want. Include pictures taken by a friend (not selfies) doing something that makes you happy. If it is a niche hobby is even best, since women who like the same would be more inclined to swipe right. Also fill all the information. If you like someone, ask that person on a date. Sure, most of the time they would say no, but if you don't ask, you might miss a yes. If they say no, take them at their word and move on. Also, don't be exclusive until you are actually dating and have discussed with the other person about dating (that is, both of you are on the same page).

It is not that women find "safe guys" boring. It is more that safe guys look exactly the same as unsafe guys. You don't know until you have go to several dates and sometimes even not then. It is the same with unsafe women, they look the same as the nice ones.

At the end of the day, finding connection is really complicated for everyone. There is a lot of luck involved. And if you have luck, you also have to work at the relationship.

What I can tell you is that when a woman is interested in you, she would make things easier for you. She would suggest activities, she would "show up" to things where you told her you would be, etc. Look for those things.