Funny, you complain about bullshit. After the nonsense about women turning lesbians. Or the one about feminists not getting respect from their partners.

Honestly? You claim that our ideas would be our downfall and that you pity us. But I‘ve been hearing that all my life. My mother has been hearing that her whole life and the “unavoidable” downfall haven’t happened. Interestingly enough, our lives are better because of our ideas and choices. If we have followed the advice of people like you, our lives would be miserable and sad.

Yes, respect happens mutually. But I don’t see mutual respect in the domestic scenes you describe. I see that you love and respect your husband. And that he loves you. But the part where he is supposed to respect you? That part is missing in your own story. Maybe you have left it out. The part where he finally admits that you were right and that you shouldn’t have to do all the research to prove that you were right from the beginning.

Many feminists come from traditional families. We are aware of what traditional people call “respect” for women. And that it is usually quite different from the actual respect men get. If we walk away from that is not because “we don’t get it”, but on the contrary. We do get what is offered. We just don’t want that.

But enlight me, in which ways does your husband submit to you? Are you the one making the calls on finances? You raised two kids on your own, which makes you good at managing money. He should be able to take your word at that. Are you the first to be served food? Maybe the one who relaxes in front of the TV after a hard day at work? The one whose opinions are considered more interesting and asked about things? Because if it's just about him bringing a check, well, no submission there. Sorry, but at this point you claim things, but haven’t offered a single example of that actually happening.