I admire your positivity. I have a different take. I think that our first priority/duty as feminist is take care of ourselves. I don't mean being selfish, but keeping yourself safe and healthy. Because to help others you do need to be OK yourself. Once you are good, you can help others.

I used to expect that the people I helped would help me back, I trusted them. But then life happened and learnt that many men won't help you back. So even if you supported whatever fight they needed help with, they won't support feminist. Sure, they would "love" you, but up until it could affect their relationship with other men. Because those men would always prioritize other men. Sometimes they even prioritize stranger men over women who have been there when they were sick, or become unemployed, or lose a parent. And it hurts.

So I've changed my expectations. Sure, I might still help them, but now I expect nothing in return. And what I have learned is that many times we can still achieve our goals without them. And also, that the men who are willing to support you are like me, they do that without expecting anything first. They just do it because they think is the right thing to do. And that was what restored my hope.

So I wish that you persuade your friends, but I also advise that you pay attention to the men who already help without you needing to ask. Sometimes is just better to change friends.