I can't speak for others but I appreciate my independence and having my own income and career. So for me I would be OK with 50/50 or even paying myself 100% as long as my partner really takes the SAHP.

The thing here is that my grandmas were SAHM and the expectations I have of that role are set by them. Sadly, most men won't take the role seriusly and won't do the part. Men haven't been raised to take the role so it is understable.

So that leave me with the 50/50 and we pay someone to do the more burdensome housechores for us. We've been living together for 6 years now and I would recommend that if you can afford it, to hire someone to do housechores for you because it reduces the discussions about who needs to do them and the level of cleanliness required.

In my situation, I would clearly hate to be a SAHM because I do hate domestic chores. I suppose that some people who enjoy them might answer differently, but I among my friends, no one likes them. A few like to cook, but not clean after (you do it because you have to). And no one likes to clean toilets or iron clothes, for example.

So my guess is that most women here would say that they would prefer the 50/50 for paying bills and domestic chores, that way you get to do more interesting things than cleaning.

As for trophy wives, many people see that as not desiderable either, since you would be eventually replaced and had no career to fall back to. Also, why be with an older unatractive men when you can be with someone you like? Having your own career frees you to choose someone you enjoy being with. I think it is worth it.