I completely disagree. The problem many successful women have is that when you have a demanding job, you usually have less time for domestic chores. So a relationship with someone who expects that you do all the cleaning, cooking and caring is not going to work. And many men do expect that women, regardless of their paid job, do those chores. That leads to conflict and unsatisfaction on both parts. And I guess is why so many men insist on goign back to the old roles.

But there are alternatives. With enough income, you can hire someone to do those domestic task for you. Or the husband can be the one doing them. Or you can reach an equitable distribution. But many men aren't happy if they don't have someone who cleans, cooks and plays the traditional wife. Or feel insecure because other men tell them that they are less of a men if they don't earn more. Or that women are hypergamous and they are going to leave them... The more other men told them that women won't like them even if they are already with them, the more insecure and the more problems in the relationship.

No, sucessful women aren't "settling" they are looking for partners that complement them. But many men simply don't like the supporting role. Which is ok, many women don't like it either. But that is the imbalance in finding partners, not the need of someone who earns more. After all, women who earn high wages, have coworkers who earn more or less the same or more. In their level, there are usually more men than women and earn more. So meeting men who make more is easy. People usually moves in circles with similar earning ranges.

But while the men with good wages have it relatively easy to find homemaker women, women in the same position might have trouble finding homemaker men who actually do the work and not just talk the talk. At the end of the day, it is more common that you end dating someone on your circle (with similar earning level or slightly more) than finding a homemaker man. It is just social dinamics. And to earn a good wage, you spend most of your time at work, so that is the dating pool for most sucessful women, their work place. XD