I disagree. I'm european. Here safe spaces are uncommon. Not for black people, latins and very few for women. I've never seen one. But I do get it.

Some people are used to everyone else catering to them. They need to be the center of attention and they seem to believe that their contributions are always the best, etc. So when they interrupt whatever you are doing or saying, they don't realize that it is annoying. And they do it all the time.

For example, you are reading in the train and they decide that they want to talk and interrupt you. And you are expected to pay attention to them, remain polite, be helpful, etc. Otherwise, you are deemed a bitch. It is exhausting.

And then it is the "danger". For example, you can't leave your drink because someone can spike it, you can't let your guard down or someone might grab your ass, and a very, very long list of things that make more difficult for people to relax.

Think this, it is irrelevant if you are safe, unsafe people look exactly the same as you. They don't wear handy T-shirts labeled "rapist" or "abuser" or whatever. So until they do something to you, you don't know if they are safe or not. Worse, some of them pretend to be normal so you let your guard down and be able to do something to you. Now, have in mind that a single man can abuse several women. And, usually, the men that do that "hide" themselves among other normal men who think they are also safe. And here comes the problem, those men would defend the abuser because they would think the women are lying.

So safe spaces help to relax because you don't have to be nice, you won't be interrupted, you won't need to have your guard up all the time.

For me it is logical to think that black and latin people feel exactly the same with white people. They probably feel exhausted just by thinking that they need to coo us, care for our feeling, make us feel "special". And at the same time, be on their guard, because they don't really know if we are "safe". So if they need a break, that is OK. It's not the end of the world.

Look at it this way, white men do have their own safe spaces too. From "gentlemans clubs", to some very white and male dominated hobbies, where being black or latin not only makes you a minority, but also being treated as that unwelcome guest that people want to leave. They aren't banned, because there is no need to ban, the pressure would increase until they leave on their own.

We can discuss about safe spaces. If they are useful or not. I personally don't feel the need for them. But I do understand why some people do. If you want safe space to disappear, then you need for people to feel welcome and safe outside of them. Be mindful of their boundaries, respect their time, don't talk over them, etc. Otherwise, if they have to cater to you all the time, they would avoid you. And by the way, that might also happen in all white men groups. The one who is narcissist and/or dangerous, would end being avoided.

Safe spaces are no big deal in the same way that it wasn't really a deal when the men in my project went to play football (soccer). The place they rented to play didn't allowed women (belong to catholic priest). I told them they didn't needed to change the place just for me, that I would be ok going to other after work where they grabbed some beers or do other things. We even went rafting.

That idea that everyone needs to bend over backwards to include you is precisely the problem. Not everything is about us and that is OK. You were included in everything else.