I don't think you are going against human nature. You are prioritizing enjoying your life now over chasing a dream that it is not even yours, but what other people tell you that you should want.

Your premise is true: both men and women seek each other. The challenge is to find someone compatible with minimun effort so you won't have to give up other areas of your life to pursue that. The key is that the other side is also looking. So by making it easier to the other to find you (As in offering visual information, like T-shirts from your team, appear doing your hobbies, etc) they can identify you. Then, in conversation, you'll notice which people is right because it would be easy to talk to them.

The old method is based on the premise that men have all agency, but that is not true anymore. And arranged marriage usually leads to more work on making the relationship work.