I think people have their own preferences of what they like. When I was little I liked to read, build things and maths. Wasn't interested in cooking or housechores. I think most kinds don't like house chores. Most don't like school either, but I didn't minded school.

On the other hand, I saw my grandmas get up before everyone else to get breakfast ready. And never stopped during the whole day. Always going on errands, picking up behind my grandfathers and basically handling everything. Yet, the ones who got the most respect were them. I used to want a boyfriend that was like my grandma. Later I realized that might not exist. hahaha

My grandmas encouraged me to study to have more opportunities than them, which is a hint that even in a good marriage, they didn't see the SAHM as such a good deal. They didn't complain about themselves but wanting something better for her daughters and grandaughters. By the way, both my aunt and my mother went to university and have careers.

For me, working on a career is the natural path. It is not easy, but it is still more rewarding and worth it. And I don't think being a SAHM is easy at all. In my country it is just expected that everyone study at least to secondary and get a job. The second it was legal for women to study, many jumped at the opportunity. The second they were allowed to work without their husband's or father's permision, all did.

Basically think at this, what did you dreamed of to become as a child? Did you have interest? Even if you didn't exactly knew, it sure there was subjects and things you enjoyed, right? And that is what orients you towards one type of career. For girls it is exactly the same.

And yes, while I hate house chores I also consider them "living skills". That is, things you need to learn to be able to live on your own. After all, earning enough to pay someone to do it for you is not granted and rarely you have enough when you start your career. Also, some things you need to do yourself because the person who cleans doesn't live with you.

But I don't think many people enjoy being SAHP. It is hard and doesn't have many recognition. And even if there is some recognition, it is also dull. And they have lots of responsibility (caring for others is), so lots of presure too.

And there are advantages to having two incomes. If one of us become unemployed, the other would still earn enough for both of us. That means that if one of them want to take a risk in order to improve, there is a "safety net". In turn, that meand both making more than we would if we couldn't take risk because there is a mortgage to pay.

The way the economy works now, it is better if both partners work full time and take turns taking risk/studying/make investments. But all this things need to be negotiated in the couple, so both people are in the same page. Otherwise it won't work.