I think that here is... I'm not sure how to put it. It might feel like that, but I don't think it is what we are saying. I mean, racism is also a cause for evil. Poverty is another rooth, And then you have homophobia, transphobia...

But patriarchy have values that are problematic. I mean, the origin of the term was for societies where the father rule over all. Not just the wife, but children, brothers, grandchildren. And many times that lead to injustice.

Feminist try to explain how those values doesn't work. Like the "being less of a men" or believing that you can't ask for help (this is twisted and a problem). There a families struggling in poverty where the man forbids the wife to work even if they need the income because they don't want to feel less of a man. That is twisted and wrong. Wouldn't be better is the family can pay bills and feed their children without problem? Is the man's ego worth that the children depend on give outs to dress?

So, yes, nuance. Keep the parts that work like having respect. But respect doesn't mean blind obedience. Sometimes you do need to say that you disagree with something. And sometimes young people can teach new things to old people. I might have contradicted my grandpas, but I also made them feel better when they felt "not good enough".

Men would feel a lot less pressure if they got rid of things like "you need to be the breadwinner" or "you need to be in charge all the time". You can change it for: "you need to do the best you can for your family. Sometimes that would mean to work outside the home and others cooking food. And sometimes it would be sharing good moments, being there".

Alright, that was long enough. Be share and just enjoy some time with the family. Being feminist is not as difficult as some men think. Some are even if they don't know.