I think that part of the problem is that we don't see the 90-95% raising hell for that 5%. The impression we get is that the 90-95% who won't rape are in denial about what the 5% are doing. And more or less Ok with some going unpunished and for the ones who are sentenced to get low sentences and not even doing those complete.

If instead of just see Pelicot's neighbour being a rapist too we would see his boss firing him, their other neighbours insulting and giving cold shoulder to them, and, hell men being at least as aggresive with them as they are with the feminist, maybe we'll see things different. But Dominic haven't received rape threats, or death threats like feminist do. Not he is receiving lots of hate mail like women in public do. Neither we are seeing plenty of articles by men saying how disgusted they are by this. Not in the number we do see against feminism. Yet, we would read about men "protecting us".

As a result, the feeling we get is that men are more ok with this kind of rape than they are about feminism.

And maybe it is not their intention, but it is the result. Men should be way more angry with Dominic Pelicot and his fellow rapist. And asking for those men to be retired custody of their poor children. After all, what kind of example is a rapist to their kids. Are we supposed to believe that those men loved their daughters? While also abusing some of them?

Honestly, the elephant in the room is that while men doesn't get rid of that 5% and show as much anger about this as they show when a women divorce, and prioritize fixing this, women would have reasons for mistrust. And all your calls for women to be "compasionate" with men... well, would be calls to be compasionate while not being compasionate with women. In something that you agree is wrong.

Right now the message traditional men are giving us with their (lack of) actions is that "this is not bid deal and in an exception, also, our problems are the only ones important so shut up bitches".