If its not my equal it is not my soul mate. Being an equal is one of the many requirements my soul mate has. If it doesn't has that, automatically disqualifies as soulmate and would be, I don't know, a terrible match that make unhappy, bitter and would bring the worst in me.

Which is the opposite I want in a partner. I can't even imagine how toxic I would become if my partner won't treated me as an equal.

Luckly, my partner considered me an equal and makes me better.

So that is a false dichotomy. Just saying.