It is about attitude. Women have selfrespect and want someone who respect them. The rating is not respectful. Is treating you as a thing, a reward or merchandise. It would also be irrespectful when it happens to a men. As you feel when you talked about being the breadwinner and about being 6 ft tall ot your income. Those things aren't who you are in the same way that looks, career and sexual experience is not who a woman is.

Women with career don't need to marry or to be with someone. So for one of us to chose to be with someone, we need to want to. And usually people only want to be with other people they connect with. That's it.