I've notice a pattern in your post. You basically explain women why what they do doesn't work and why they aren't persuading "men". Which I guess refers to the men who share your ideas, since some men do support those women who acording you are doing it wrong.

My question is: why do you care? And why do you think persuade "men" should be the priority?

Because right now, it seems that the aim is for women to simply stop doing things that are working for them even if they aren't persuading "men".

Now, lets say they persuade "men" but, somehow, for "men" making things more equal or better for women is the last priority and there is always something more important that, of course, requires the support and effort of those women. So the things those women want keep getting pushed back and never get real progress. Is it really worth it to persuade those men?

Sometimes is better to put effort in what you can change and simply, don't care about what other think. Ironically, many of the things you critizice, would change things for those women specifically (for example, they won't get pregnant in a place that won't allow them abortion if they need it). Prolife men would never be persuaded, so better keep their distance. The aim is safety, not persuasion.

And some people never listen.