Lets unpack. First, some women are lesbians or bisexual the same way that some women have brown eyes. They just are. The most perfect man won't turn them heterosexual. Their bitterness or happiness is irrelevant to them being lesbians.

And the other way around. Some women are heterosexual and no amount of bitterness would turn them lesbian. They might decide that they are happier being single. Or they might decide to divorce, which also happens. But they won't turn lesbian. So your asertion is just absurd.

As for the "what if artificial insemination is not available" is irrelevant, because it exist and is available. People make choices based in what is, not what ifs.

You might not like that many women chose to become single mothers or divorce from husbands that doesn't make them happy. But it happens all the time.

Now, you claim that men and women submit to each other. But by your description of having to do reasearch to (maybe) persuade tour husband while he doesn't nothing of the sort and just assume that you should take his word unless you do all that extra effort (and maybe even after doing the extra effort), I see nothing of the sort. Your husband doesn't submit to you or respect your ideas. Sorry, but it is your own description of how things work between your husband and you what tells me that he doesn't submit at all.

The fact is that many of us already have love and respect from our partners and equality. Yes, we can have it all and we have. That is the point.

You might have your husbands love, but I would disagree about him respecting you. Again, by your own account, I won't call that respect.

People having or not sex right away is personal choice and it is as valid as yours. People having friendships is good, as it is meeting someone in an app. The fact is that many women do know what they want and what they don't want. The problem is not that they "truly want a traditional man to submit to" but that many times people present themselves as different from what they really are. And many traditional men pretend to be more feminsit in order to "win" the love and the trust of feminsit women. Only to show their true colors after marriage. Hence divorce once those women find the truth. That happens. And people change.

But if I were you, I won't judge the people who make different choices as "sad", because those choices work for them. And you might find that all your sacrifices weren't really needed to achieve a good relationship.

Again, many feminist women already have fullfilling, loving and respectful relationships while being equal. Some of them are with other women, some with men and some with both. And children are born in those relationships. And grow up happy.

So submit if you want to, but don't tell others that that is the only way. Because that is a lie.