Like women and non binary people. I mean, most of us go through our teens and young adulthood trying to grow up and decide who we want to be, facing challenges, problems and stuff. Sometimes you find out that what you thought you wanted doesn't make you happy. Other times things doesn't happen as expected and need to deal with frustration and disappointment. This keeps happening as you get older. And somehow you need to find ways to be happy regardless.
What you describe is basically life and happens not just in the context of "masculinity" but also in the context of "womanhood" or "feminity" (haven't you heard that if you don't have children you aren't a real woman? Well, some women are sterile. enjoy!). And not just those things, some traditional people have decided that liking comics or videogames is not for adults. But both comics and videogames for adults exists and many people who like those things are adults with their lives in order. And then you would have religious people telling you how to live your life and you don't really fit and the things that make you happy other people tell you they are a sin or wrong or childish or whatever.
What I'm trying to say is that, maybe, part of growing up is realizing that most of those things are "noise" and maybe it doesn't really matter if some idiots thing that you aren't "masculine". Whatever, they are idiots and you need to figure out what works for you and makes you happy without hurting others and being reasonably respectful.
The "masculinity crisis" would disappear if we started blocking the "influencers" that insist that there is only one right way to be a man and one way to be a woman and that you can't be non binary or who you are. That is them not wanting to deal with the frustration of you doing what makes you happy instead of making their lives simpler and doing what they want from you.
No one can tell you how to be you. That is the point.
As for what women want from men, well, each women is different. What traditional women want is different than what feminist want. It is fair to expect basic respect and being treated as equals. It is not fair that they told you what your hobbies should be. Not the jobs you should be doing. It is fair to ask to contribute your share in a relationship. What is your share? It would depend on your partner and you might not be compatible if expectations are way too different.
The "gender war" is about two different social systems. The patriarchal/traditional where there was two rigid roles and one role that carries less rights and is expected to serve the other and another that has privileges but at the same time is not free at all. The other system feminist/modern is more flexible, which meand more options but also more confusion. Like going into a candy shop where some candies might taste bad and some look bright and colourfull and others more dull and you don't know what candy do you want or what would taste. So you have no option but to take a risk and choose something, try it and if you don't like it, choose another.
The traditional/patriarchal people are the ones who want someone to choose for them, to tell them how to live their lives and to have some "certainty". Many men (but also women) like this. It is linked with religion (that tells you how to "live well"). But since more men (the dominant and privileged role) like this system than women, they try to force their system on women. And many men who are not traditional, when in doubt, take things from the old system, impacting negatively on others (many times women).
So maybe try to read the feminist articles in context. Many won't apply to you. Others would be crazy or only apply in a very specific context that you are not aware of. Others would apply to you, but not as a complain, but as things that you didn't realized you needed or as obstacles that you have also faced. Keep whatever you think is useful for yourself and discard the rest. Because feminist are also trying to figure out stuff, just like the "new men". hahaha
