Look the misconception here is to think that "waiting to be asked" is pasive and takes no effort. Women go to the gym, diet, use make up, go to the air dresser, and some of them even have surgeries to look pretty and be asked.

Sure, some of them are naturaly beautiful, but most put a lot of work to look the way they do and be asked. But there are also women who after doing all that work are rarely asked because they don't fit the beauty standards or are average.

So if men want to be asked, they probably need to do their version of that.

On the other hand, I'm sure that women are already swipping right at dating apps. And they do to men who haven't swipe right yet. And there are women doing the asking. Sure, there are few, because for us the asking might mean to be considered "sluts" and has a cost beyong the posibility of being rejected: bad reputation or being considered easy and that even if the guy say yes, that he treat you badly.

At the end of the day, you need to asses what your strengs are and make the most of them. Or what strategy fits you better to achieve the best results for you.

I did in fact chosed to do the asking even if that meant getting rejections and worked for me. Doesn't mean I wasn't asked either, but the kind of guy that usually asked me, wasn't the kind of guy I was interested in. By asking myself, I get to only ask the kind of guys I liked, while the ones who asked me rarely were. Think that many times, there are men 20 years your senior doing the hitting. Men of my father's age... And while there are women who do like older men, many times people prefer someone of a similar age. XD

So there is power in both position and I would say that asking is better, since it gives you more control.