My suggestion: go to a "cougars" place. That is, a bar, a pub, disco or wherever women over 40 or even 50 go to flirt and meet men. There you'll be desired and, at least in my country, they would be the ones making very clear advances.

Another good place are "single meetups". Apparently now people go to those to flirt and met someone.

Bonus points if its a Pot luck party where you can bring something you have cooked and "brag" about it without being obvious that you are bragging. That way you would had the chace to show your cooking skills before the date phase. ;)

Sometimes what you need to break a pattern is to do something different. Just saying.