No, but they share traits.

And I agree that it is better to be specific about what is bad and what is good. I can even look for some good values that existed in some patriarchies.

But the thing is that the good values can work for both men and women. Some of them, need to be translated. And others just get rid of them.

Example: Be courageous --> work for both men and women and non-binary

Protect women and children (which apparently not always happened) --> Protect the weak. Here, an old man might need more protection than a young healthy woman for obvious reasons. And children would always need protection, not like the old times when boys were asked to be "the men of the family" when the father was absent putting an unfair burden on them instead of expecting the mother to step up and the government to offer a security net to make that easier.

Women submit to the husband and being weak/inferior --> discard.

This is basically what feminism is doing. Even if we are maligned for that. But it would be a mistake to think that I share no values with my grandparents. I do, most of them. I'm just reinterpreting them in a more egalitarian way. I mean, If a mean is carrying groceries, shouldn't I hold the door for him because he is a men and traditionally is the men the one holding the door for women?

I'm aware that US is not Afghanistan, and neither like Europe or asia. But gender roles are restrictive, unfair, not practical and usually lead to absurd situations like the men with the groceries trying to hold the door for the woman with the free hands. or having to run in heels so the man holding the door doesn't have to wait to much only for him to look at your ass while you go into the building. to follow with the previous example (real life examples, by the way XD).