No. Dear, you can be a good and a fun person. Those are not exclusive. That applies to both men and women. The problem here is that people like you promised boys and men that a girl or women would be their reward (as opposed to a people with their own dreams, needs and wants) if they act the way you want them.

No. You need to be kind and respectful to everyone, men, women and non binary for the sake of being a decent person. That is the reward, be a decent human being. If you want a partner, you need to connect with other person as people, and both of you need to like each other. Those are different things.

And I would argue that the second the "Larrys" expect a woman to be with them just for being decent, they stop being decent. Because it is not respectful to ignore that the other person might have their personal preferences in partners. They might want to share hobbies, tastes in music, life goals, values and many other things. Respect includes accepting your partner values and ideas.

For example: if your partner is child free and prochoice, they aren't going to change for you and might not want to be with someone who support antichoice and pressures them to have children.