No. I don't want to control my partner, neither I want him to control me. I want to be able to make my own decisions and that he can make his own decisions. And if it is about something that affects both of us, the decision should be discussed, agreed and shared.

Whenever someone tries to control I end feeling "attacked" so I usually end the relationship. On the other hand, if someone wants me to decide everything for them, doesn't work either. Since I've no problem deciding for them, but I feel as if I was not letting them grow, which is not good.

But if I have to take a pick between being dominant or submisive, I pick being dominant myself, because at least I would be able to make my own decisions.