No. It is your personal preference.

Many women have the finantial and emotional stability covered by their own job and assets and the emotional part by their family and friends.

That is what you and many men don't seem to understant. To the women who have that already been covered, offer them that might not be what they need or want. They might need or want different things. For example, that men acknowledge what those women have achieved on their own.

So when a woman who have already achieved finantial and emotional stability on her own, is asked to "make herself smaller" and downplay her achievements in order to be offered what she already has, it is normal that it doesn't work out. Specially if a traditional role as a submisive wive is expected. Then she would be giving up on things to get basically nothing that she didn't have before.

That is the point and the reason conservative men are so lost. What they offer works for a conservative woman who doesn't want to have a career outside the home and that likes to have a dominant husband. It doesn't work for an independant woman. Yet conservative people insist that the independent woman "secretly" still want the provider dominant men and that when they reject those men is because they "are entitled", "want too many things", "not know what they really want", "have the bar too high", etc.

At no point those men consider that independent women want different things and that the provider part has become irrelevant to them because they have it already it covered.

Once you understand this, it becomes about findind the women who still want the provider thing, not about persuading the ones who doesn't care that they are doing it wrong and that they are unfair.

It is like offering lobster to someone allergic to sea food. No matter it is an expensive dish, they would never like it. And they don't should "just try it" or keep eating it because it is "an adquired taste". It would never work out.