No one is honest about dating. You have noticed. You ghost people you aren't interested in. You asume people who ghost you aren't interested in you.

If you allow small suggestions:

1. Never go on dates or even swipe left in people you don't like. It is a waste of time and you would ghost them. Focus your time and attention in people who you like.

2. Tinder devotes most space to pictures, so it encourages hock ups and those are based in looks. Try apps where you can write. Profiles with one or two lines and that are generic identify people who only want to hock up and only would pay attention to looks. Profiles more detailed indentify people who want a relationships. That people would ask questions and expect the other person to do the same. And to share values and interest. But finding one doesn't guarantee success. It would take time and meeting several people.

3. It is about both men and women having a good time, not just men. Look for people that enjoy the same things than you. Wether is sex or other areas, you must search for people who enjoy what you do with them.