No, we don't want "classic patriarchal qualities", we do want respect. And respect is something that goes beyond words.

The problem you face is that you do still want traditional women who are submisive and deffer to men. You want "classical patriarchy qualities in woman". But you are trying to date the ones who work full time, who don't follow patriarchal values. And so, when they notice that you expect them to do everything at home or the little gestures that imply that you want traditional roles, they walk away. Because they never wanted that.

Women don't have "imposible" standards, they have completely different standards than the ones you think they have.

To make an analogy. The problem is that you are "trying to feed a roast beef to a vegetarian". You insist that the problem is that they want the most expensive beef. When in fact, the problem is not that. Many times a cheap salad would do, but you insist on trying to feed them beef. And no matter how expensive the beef, beef would never do.

That is why you see so many men who don't fit your description being happily coupled. They have noticed that some women want actual respect and equality not just in words, but also in actions.

You are traditional and want patriarchal values, but many women don't like that. The women who still want that, are less than before. So in practice, you are competing for just a fraction of women.