Now that you have repeated what you have already told, I see there was no confusion on my part, but it might be on yours.

What you describe might feel good for the man. Specially the delusion about "protection", that takes no effort at all, but is basically only in his head and works only to limit a woman's freedom (which is also anoying and another thing that makes the relationship worse for the woman and makes us want to break up). For example: A man telling me that I should go alone to a place is not protection, is limiting. Because I can go on my own at my own schedule and do whatever I need to do. And if I want to meet with friends or go to an activity he doesn't like, I can just go alone and do it. If you have to negotiate in order for him to come with you, many times you end not doing whatever you wanted to do or have to cut your time short. So is not the nice thing you seem to believe it is.

And of couse you don't want a woman's protection when in practice is going to limit your freedom and not make you any safer.

Some men have decided that taking care of their partners is "femenine" instead of just nice. So isntead of compliments we get negging or basically neglect. Well, as I say, we might be patient at first if we think it is due some external problem. An illness, dificulties he has at work or something like that. But if that is the norm in the relationship? Then it is a relationship that might be great for the man, but it sucks for the woman. So we break up.

And you are wrong about the part of not being possible that both people show love in the same way and similar intensity because that is exactly the case in both my first relationship that was long term and the one that I have now that is also long term. I do appreciate the compliments and can tell when they are honest (it comes with knowing the other person). I do appreciate when he cares for me, so caring for him feels right instead of a burden. And both protect each other without the need to restrain our freedom. But maybe that is onlu for confindent people who simply doesn't care if we fot or don't idiotic stereotypes about "masculinity" and "feminity". We have never wondered "who the woman is in the relationship", that only happens in your heads. Men are the ones who start freeting about those things when their male friends call them betas or pushovers. But us don't consider men less manly. On the contrary, we love them more for being confident to show us love.

I mean, it is on you if you want to not show love to your partners. Maybe for the man is great and he can enjoy it, but from the woman's perpective it sucks a lot. We don't feel loved, we feel neglected. and doesn't make us appreciate more the one compliment that we might get, doesn't make us feel special. It feels more as the one thing he does in order to string you along. My shortest relationship was like this. The bright side is that it taught me what I didn't want in my life and what kind of men avoid.

So if your aim is to persuade women that the unbalanced is right and that while their partners aren't caring for them, that they still "love" them and they compensate with "protection" which, in practice, what it means? Because where I live, it is the police (which is paid with taxes) who protects both men and women. And there are police women. Be honest: protection is abstract that means cero effort and no concrete action. But in the hypothetical scenario of a fight, anyone can tell you that two against one is better, so the mutual protection is the way to go. And if you have learned a little about martial arts, you would know that balace, technique and reflexes are also important. And that weapons also turn the tables. That is to say, you might no value a woman's protection, but in a real fight, having her stand by your side might not be as useless as you think. Your claim that you don't expect women to protect men just shows that you have never been in a real situation when you need it. To put an example: imagine that in your house there are several guns. Someone breaks into your home. That someone might be armed. Won't you prefer both of you to be armed and go together for safety? And if there are several intruders?

Honestly, you can keep telling yourself that we like the manly man act and insist that we won't appreciate the caring and so on. But that won't change the result. Love from women and the benefit of the doubt might buy you a few months. Gaslighting about claiming to love the woman and about how control is protection might trick the groomed conservative women for a few years. But in the end, women do know that is not love, they feel neglected and break up. Hell, even conservative women like to be told they are beautiful and taken out for dinner or get presents. But people don't need to believe, they just need to look how long the different relationships last while following your advice. Maybe after a few failed they would consider that maybe what you claim is only to lower the bar for men and expecting that women still settle. Hint: women are settling for being single instead. XD