OK, I'll buy that. But if for whatever reason the man can't (let's say an accident) I don't think he would be less of a man. He did his best. And the mother should also be there. She can't say, "well, since I'm a woman, it is my oldest boy the one who needs to work", she needs to be the one who step in so her boys can be children (until they are adults, of course). See? If both work, it is easy to carry burdens. But of course, then the house should also be shared. And the caring.