On paper. Many times the "Larrys" are pretending and doesn't treat women as equals. Being normal/decent person doesn't entitle you to anyone. Women are not rewards for good behaviour. The part you seem to not want to see is that being kind is the bare minimun. Connection and attraction should also exist.

Expect that women date or marry someone because they are not terrible (and they can still be sexist and bad partners even if they consider themselves "kind" for listening. I mean, really? Because that is a very low bar).

Unless the "Larrys" start seeing women as individual people that they not only listen to, but are actually interested and share things with them seeking someone who is also interested in them, they would fail. And this is not about lust, but about having real relationships.

I've lost count of the men who claim to "listen" but never remember what was said or even understand what was said, why or act on it. Yes, all those men who listen how tire their partner is but still "let her" do almost everything at home. Or the ones that "keep forgetting" things that were asked. Then those men claim to listen and having no bad intentions. And they don't have bad intention, but the end result is the same: they don't act as partners.

As a result, many women prefer the "Patricks". Because those men would have a "one night stand" and then walk away, not expect that you do everything at home and thing that you "owe" them for the smallest things.

So is not so much "nice guys end last" as "nice guys aren't as nice when they expect women as rewards and women have noticed that". We seek real partners.