On the contrary. Women are aware that conservative dating system is also superficial and performatory. They want a real connection wich is different for each person. And very difficult to find. Since most men only offer superficial and performatory dating, they pick the least costly for them.

I mean, what Mark is offering is paying bills in exchange of domestic work, subservience, sex and reproduction. But he is not offering real respect because when the woman told him about her dreams and ambitions, it is clear that he is going to prioritize his and claim that what he wants is "the best for both of them". So for all the nice words, Mark is not that different from "James Dean": he comes first.

But when women have the luck to find a man who sees them as a person, who is able to compromise and help her with her dreams and shares his. He not only talks but listen and looks for ways both can have a common future that includes the dreams of both, then women do still value.

And now a hard truth, when a woman says "you are too nice" is an euphemism. They do know that while he is not that nice for her, he sees himself as nice. They don't want to hurt him more than needed for the break up, so they lie. And who knows? Maybe they find a conservative woman who is happy with what he offers. So they say that instead of listing what didn't work in order to avoid a pointless conversation where he would defend that the things that he did wrong, weren't really wrong and that she is selfish, terrible, etc. Many women regret choosing the Marks when they are young just because they are superficially nice.