Or success. Many double income couples where the skill of both people are taking into account are incredibly succesful. Then again, when an economy nobel like Amartia Sen said that giving loans to women instead men favoured the families, many men chose to ignore that despite the evidences.

I suppouse that depends on how you do define "disaster". Healthy and happy family is a disaster if the men is not the one making the calls? Not in my world, but I suppouse that in the world of men who want to prioritize themsleves over the rest of the family it might be.