So they don't want to change to fit with someone who they don't like anyway. I would say that is healthy.

Now, I haven't see men who say "love yourself" and just forget about he women who doesn't like you. What I've seen is men angry for not being liked and that come to lecture women (or me) about how wrong I am for not liking them and not wanting to change to be liked by them.

There is a difference between not liking someone and lecturing that person you don't like about all the things you don't like about them and how they need to change to be liked by you.

There is a difference between forgetting about someone who doesn't like you and complaining to that person about how unfair you are for not liking you. Hint: articles who complain about women wanting too many things from men are the second.

And it is that second what is branding them as "egotist and psycho".