So they lied to you. And instead of adapting, you chose to be bitter at women.

By the way, the "ideal virgin" you want might want more than someone "succesful". Usually women who remain virgin want connection. And while you chose to focus on looks (hers and yours), you miss the point. Maybe listen to your sisters in law, there probably were more reasons than your brother's income for them to chose them.

Women are people, not rewards. If you want a wife, you need to connect with her. And that is a lot more than just having a job and a "cool life". No short cuts here.