So what if a woman provides her partner and her potential offspring with financial and emotional security?

Are we allowed to answer that? Because look around, those beautiful, smart women in the dating apps, usually have studies and careers. Many have loving families, great friends and have perfectly balanced lives. They don't need a man to provide for them, they need a partner to share those things with. And to celebrate them, and to support and encourage them to become even more succesful than they already are.

Maybe the problem is not so much that women aren't bringing things to the table, but that the things that they bring to the table aren't being valued.

That men who asked you what did you bring to the table didn't expect a straight answer, he expected you to feel little, "not enough", insecure and worse. So you would settle for him and put all your effort to achieve something resembling of approval. But only conditional approval so you keep feeling insecure and working your ass off to please him. Well, that is manipulative and toxic. No wonder why no matter how many "boxes" on a list he checked, many women skipped him. It wasn't about a long list of things those women wanted, but about being mature enough to skipp on someone who is not good for you.

Remember, those women are already emotional and finantially stable, they don't need to settle.