So you are complaining about the traditional woman who want to be housewives. Interesting.

The irony is that the woman you are complaining about aren't the feminist who want a career, but the traditional woman who want a husband with high incomodo (also the traditional way to value a Man who is supposed to he the breadwinner).

So why do you blame feminist for what the traditional gender roles they talk against do?

The way I see it, some men want traditional wives as long as they aren't expected to fulfill the traditional men role as providers. So they want the career woman who provides but at home defers to them and do all housechores and the caring. All while looking at them with admiration whatever they do.

Make up your mind. Either you want the traditional wife who would expect to be maintain and for you to calue what she does at home or the feminist who would have a career but won't do everything at home, not be submisive and expects respect.