Some of the things you quote happen from certain perspective. I have a friend who loves her job. Her job takes many hours and involves travel. She also dates men that she likes (and I assume they like her). But many times, when things start to get serious, the man ask her for several things:

* to travel less

* to spend more time with him

* to dedicate time to take care of him (in a more traditional job).

All those things would translate in her having to leave the job she loves. So she has to chose: the job she loves or the man. And she choses the job. She is aware that she is chosing and doesn't complain about that. But the fact is that the man had also made a choice. He wants a woman more dedicated to him opposed to continue a relationship where she would keep travelling and working long hours. In a way, he couldn't handle to be with an independent women. Or maybe he would prefer a woman who spends more time at home, cooking and doing housework rather than working.

Neither my friend or I consider that terrible. But at the end of the day, that doesn't work for her in a relationship. Hence, break up and going back to be single.

The more women who want to keep working, the more we would see situations like this. Because time is limited and some of the things some men want in a woman are not compatible with having a career.