Elisa Mariño
2 min readMar 21, 2022

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The thing is that it is irrelevant if I'm attractive to someone while working out. Women who go to the gym, go to exercice, not to be oogled at. Yet, the specific kind of men who interrupt you to say something, prioritize his wants over your right to do your own life. That is the point.

And it happens at work, on the streets and everywhere. Women choose their clothes based on what they are going to do and want. Then some men think that they have a right to tell you that whatever your aim, it is secondary to looking attractive to them. No, they liking us or not is irrelevant.

You don't get it because I guess extrangers never stopped you from whatever you are doing to tell you. Ei, that trousers doesn't look good on you, yu should wear suits instead. Suits make men look sharp. Or something like that.

And yes, we do reply, etc. Some men might become angry when we do, some even violent. Because they feel entitled to tell us how we should look. And sure, even then, we stand our ground and tell them to Fuck off. But it is still anoying.

By the way, it is also telling that men usually imagine that they would be interrupted and approached by an attractive women. Men have that fantasy. But the reality is that it is usually older and disgusting men who do this. To understand the situation, you should imagine that older, nosy neighbour that you don't like at all, telling you how to dress and act. Insistently and rudely. And when you tell her off, her shouting at you that you are "over reacting/histerical" and the neighbours siding with her because "women are always enjoying oogling men".

And again, what men enjoy is irrelevant. The important thing is how they act. People should be respectful of others. Gay men don't go around interrupting other men to tell them what to wear, neither stare to the point of making you uncomfortable regardless of how much they enjoy ogling at men, aren't they?

So just asume that other people aren't going to dress for you (maybe your girldfriend would, but not extrangers) and that you shouldn't interrupt them or tell them how to dress. It is not that difficult.

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Elisa Mariño
Elisa Mariño

Written by Elisa Mariño

Fiction is the art to tell lies to show truths. Politics is the art to use truths to tell lies.

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