The thing is that since people start treating you differently from the moment the echography offers a sex, and it is known that you can be influenced by things even in the womb, well, it might prove to be difficult to find out what is biological and what not. I do know for a fact that as children we receive pressure and that adults that do that are completely oblivious that they are doing that.

And even if at some time they notice those things, they usually try to justify it in the name of some "greater good". Like "the family" or saying things "when you grow up, you'll change your mind". And then, you grow up, don't change your mind and they need a new narrative. They usually go with "but you are the exception" and "I didn't mean to hurt you/discriminate you". But at the same time, you see then repeat the same things with younger family members.

I do believe that there is not bad intention and that in their way they love you. But they are taking things away from you anyway. And in some ways, they are taking things from themselves. It took years for my late grandfather to see that I was the more similar to him among his grandchildren. He could have shared plenty of things with me. By the time he realized that, he was already in dialysis, so he was unable to do many of those things anymore. We both missed out. And I never became the "perfect lady" they would have wanted. It wasn't in me.

Children usually have mixed interest, but adults push them in certain directions and the children pick up quickly what the adults like/approve.