Elisa Mariño
2 min readJan 17, 2022

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This:

“You’re not the problem, it’s modern women. It’s these bitches.”

It is easier to blame women, than question the system you live in (and benefit from). But the system has always been broken.

I mean, boys/men have been told this:

Of you study hard you can go to university.

If you go to university, you would get a good job.

If you get a good job you would get a good wife.

Then you can form a family and find happiness.

There is a variation: work hard instead of study hard, but is more or less the same. They are also told that "alphas"/"winners" are the ones at the top of the pyramid and that to be a man, means to be at "the top", to lead, etc.

Well, then comes real life. Only a few people is going to be at the top. Traditionaly, women were kept at the bottom so even the men who won't make it, would be an step over the bottom (At least I'm not at the bottom). And women were given no choices but to be wives, so the "reward" was almost guaranteed.

But they have been told a lie.

Studying hard won't guaranteed going to university. And neither going to university or work hard guarantee a good stable job that pays the bills. You can have better chances, but not certainty. And then, having a job, won't get you a wife that would do all the domestic chores ans treat you as a "master of the home". Many men with good jobs aren't finding a girlfriend (since now women want more than just a man with a job and they want equal partners). And even the ones who have jobs and marry, won't have the certainty that it would last.

The thing is that it is easier to blame women for "not doing their part" in them getting what "were promised" than evaluate that capitalism leads to insecurity at their jobs and that staying in a relationship takes respect and work on both parts. That they don't deserve special treatment for being man.

They want to "put women in their place" because they need women to play the role of "wife" that unconditionally supports them no matter what and make them feel as "better than" even when things at work are bad. They don't really care if it is not fair for women. Thwy would claim that their lot is "worse" while at the same time, refusing to trade (because they know women have it worse).

At some point, some would realize they need to change and addapt, and other would remain bitter. You can't "save them". They are the ones who need to change and they'll only change if they want to change. What you can do is avoid men who won't respect you. Or if you don't want to avoid them, make sure that they won't hurt you as a way to vent their frustration at the system.

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Elisa Mariño
Elisa Mariño

Written by Elisa Mariño

Fiction is the art to tell lies to show truths. Politics is the art to use truths to tell lies.

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