This is one of the things we disagree. Maybe it is because I'm a nerd and have a lot of male nerd friends who didn't fit the traditional idea of masculinity. The thing is that many men do a lot better without pressure from other men and support from family and friends instead.

And women didn't have a tendency towards people, we do have pressure to please other people and as a result we are forced to develop certain skills in the same way that men are pressured to participate in sports and other physical activities.

One of my classmates told me once that "he couldn't study because he had to play soccer" (In my country futball/soccer is a big deal). At that point sounded absurd, but in retrospect I think that he felt pressured to play and be good at that to the point that he prioritized soccer over his grades. Something similar happens to girls. If you don't care about clothes, make up and other social things, you are presured. The expectations that you say that make some thrive, crush other men and deny them to grow in areas where they might be more skilled. My friends are a good example. They were terrible at sports (most of them, not all), but most had good grades. Pressure to play more soccer wouldn't have made them good soccer players, but would have lowered their grades. Luckyly, we stook together against the pressure, otherwise we wouldn't have thrived.