When I was at highschool there was a boy who was good at study and had very good grades. He was the first or second in the clase with another girl. the other boys attacked him for being good at studies, the usual calling him a nerd. Since the other boys didn't like him, the girls in the class included him so he wasn't alone. So the boys started calling him "gay" and attacking him even more. Now, he was intelligent enough to not alter course, but he suffered a lot of presure from other boys to be less than he can be.

He did in fact date, since he was fun and not bad looking. And of course he went to university and did good. My point is that things would have been a lot more easy for him if other boys didn't attack him. Also that it is possible that other boys who could have done better didn't because they didn't want the presure that boy experience.

Some of the things men complain about are problems of their own doing. Studies and university always have taken effort. And if someone is studying, they rarely have the time for the "cool" stuff like sports and videogames that get them popularity among other boys. The girls liked the studious boy. He was our friend and, yes, some find him cute. But boys, like men, value more a guy who is good at sports, than one who is good at nerdy stuff. That is why soccer players are famous in Europe and in USA is basket or whatever sport they practice.

Yet, men keep insisting that is us, girls, who make things difficult for them. But we shared our notes and helped them study, it was them who though soccer was more important. And they consider us stupid when we said that they weren't right. Never listened to us. So maybe fathers could insist on boys studying more? Or that doing good at school is cool?