Wrong. Some men are not safe. Incest and rape in families prove that being a father, brother, neighbour or whatever doesn’t necesarily mean that they are safe. Domestic violence is done by partners.

And men won’t come labeled with safe or unsafe. the abusers look the same that the safe men. And the problem is that many times, the “safe” men chose to side with the abusers and asume that women lie.

Is not as much as women thinking that “all men are unsafe”. If that were the case, we would avoid them completelly. Is more that you can’t count on them for sure if you are abused or raped. They might chose to not believe you, minimize your pain, etc. And if that happens, it hurts more, so they don’t risk it. It is quite rational, minimize risk of more pain. Reduce interactions with people who is hurting you, even if they doesn’t mean it and it was “just a joke” that triggers their PST that they doesn’t know they have.

Yet, we are expected to pretend everything is alright so we won’t hurt men’s feelings. We are supposed to pretend they make us safe. Family and friends of Brooke Turner thought he was safe, still believe it after it was proved he was a rapist. Was he safe? For whom was he safe? He was safe for men, for some women, but obviously not for the one he raped. So I ask you, why do you expect women to trust men who haven’t earned that trust? In fact, if abused, the first thing we are told is “why did you trust him?”

Some women only acknowledge that if we are attacked we would be blamed for that, so maybe is better to minimize risk. Feminist say that we need to get rid of the unsafe men and make them acountable for their actions in order to be able to trust the other men. Otherwise, in doubt, we would have to mistrust all men and not take chances.