You also assume things about women: that women don’t take accountability for their actions. We do. The thing is that we don’t take accountability for things that had nothing to do with us.

It is not our fault that things don’t work out for men the way they would like them to be. That is just life. We're doing the same thing that men, we are trying to live our lives in a way that makes us happy. All the complaints about “modern women” can be summed up as “why things aren’t like an idealized version of the past?” Well, because they never worked that way, to begin with.

And yes, women used to be blamed for everything. If a husband cheated, it was the wife’s fault for “not keeping him happy”. If he lost his job, it was the wife's duty to support him, so it was her fault. If there was no money, she was accused of being greedy. We can go on.

Now it is different. Both partners work, so if one becomes unemployed, at least there is one income. And that in turn allows for one member to take risks in their career. The counterpart is that it no longer is valid to say “go make me a sandwich” to end a discussion, that both have a say in everything and that men have to do their part at home. There are plenty of couples happy like that.

The problem is not that women aren’t accountable for their actions, is that men are too. So assumptions like “since I work I deserve dinner served when I’m home” might not work anymore or even turn around when the one working is the wife.

The thing about wanting a “traditional woman” is that it seems men have forgotten that traditional women expected way more than “modern” women regarding money and career success. And about getting expensive gifts, taken out and being pampered. Many want maids to do the actual housekeeping work. And of course credit cards. That is the way it was.

But it seems that men want women who make money (that let the men manage), take care of everything at home, take care of their looks for their husbands, offer them sex whenever they want but don’t “nag” them asking for things they want. All in exchange for some compliments from time to time. And that is never going to work for long. This is basically the best of two worlds for men with no drawbacks. But in practice, it is a matter of time that a traditional woman would become tired of working outside the home or that a modern woman accepts that their partner controls the money, decides for her, and expect her to do everything around the house. You can have one or the other, not both.